Expectation vs Reality

in everything we do...
im certain that we have some expectation to it...
either we want smething from it... or we want gratitute..
or expecting a good result out of it...

howerver, what if the reality is below our expectation???
when we expect to pass in exam...but we failed...
when we expect to be loves... but we are betrayed...
when we expect friends to comfort us like we comfort them when they are down...
but they seem do not care what happen to you...
when all this thing happen... what we going to feel?

FRUSTRATION...

I just want to share with the readers...
last night, I received a message from 1 person that i know...
this person, speaks about failure...
how he fail, a lots of time...
and he said that he has low self esteem during that time...
but everyone around him do not really care about him...
and complaining how people around him don't understand him...
that he is under pressure...

ok... that is from his point of view...
what he may not know is that...
he is the one who runs from it...
he don't want to face his failure...
and he expect people around him to comfort him all the time...
without considering either they have other problems or not...

sometimes... when we are frustrated...
we feels like everything is against us...
even a soap slip through our palm...
can make us very furious....

this guy... thinks that i don't know how he felt...
he speaks like he is the only person in this world...
that understands failure and frustration....
yeah right...
maybe our case is not same...
but i know frustration...maybe not 100%...but i've felt it...
there are many things happened to me before I join Curtin...
only Allah knew how I felt...
crying was a routine to me before...
its not easy ...
but those things are actually a mechanism...
to build the person that I am today...

this is because i was expecting higher than the reality...
so frustration is the result...
sometimes, reality is not as we expected it to be...
so we feels frustrated...

to relieve this frustration...
we blame everyone around us ...
we claim everyone around us don't care about us...

this is what happen to this person...
he thinks that everyone pity him...
because of that, he can do everything he wants...
say everything he likes...

well, im not like that...
i don't simply swallow what have you said to me...
if i thinks you are too much ... i said it...
i don't care how much my words hurt you...
you should also consider how your words may hurt other...
did you ever thinks of that???

Allah is fair...
He test us depend on our capability to face it...
Allah don't burden us with something that we consider too much...
Allah know us best...
we just have to pray, improve and tawakal(leave the rest to Allah)...
and everything that happen...
there are always positive side of it...
Allah is planning something for us ...
so we need to be patient ...

and my advice....
in our life... we will bumb into a junction...
where we have to chose our path...
so decide what is best for us...
and make sure you decide yourself...
and be responsible to it...
you decide your future...

lastly, in relationship...
if we do something to someone...
dont ever expect a return from that person...
my best friend once told me;
"a perfect relationship is when one loves another without expecting to be loved"

May Allah show you the way ...
Let us also pray for this person...
so he can face it strongly ...

Thank you ...